Timing is truly everything. In a world of chaos and order, some things may take time to develop and show up in our lives – the perfect job, the health you aspire to achieve, the love of your life finally arriving. I know it sounds cliche’ but it’s all about faith, or Emuna in Hebrew. It’s a feeling you hold inside without rhyme or reason as your soul speaks through your heart vibrating and signaling similar energy to make its way home.
Faith has its roots in the beginning, when Adam and Eve were in the Garden of Eden. Understanding the roots of your spirituality can bring you deeper faith and connection to not only the universe and each other, but to ourselves. Faith is a beautiful thing to hold. It can make a difference in how healthy we are mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically.
I suppose with faith naturally comes patience. If you have patience, surely there is faith in that which you are patient for?
Patience and faith seem to be lacking in the world of dating these days. Everyone is so afraid of finding themselves alone. A friend told me last evening she quit dating sites altogether because she found the men were into one of two things: having sex or pushy to jump right into a committed relationship. There didn’t seem to be much of a courtship happening and it bothered her.
Honestly, we can learn a lot about ourselves if we learn to connect to our greatest friend of all, intuition. Intuition is a guiding star toward fulfillment in all aspects of our lives. There’s no rush!
This morning was a huge heart revelation. My best friend sent me a lovely piece written by Leda De Zwann on Spirit Science called Cosmic Marriage, Why So Many Traditional Marriages Fail. For soul love to happen, the most important organ in the body will need to be fully engaged – the heart.
When we love ourselves, we will not attract a fear-based relationship because both partners live from the heart. It is a deep connection. Many settle for what looks more like a contract than a love marriage. I often ponder how this came to be. I’ll write about that discovery soon.
You cannot force or change how someone feels and make the relationship work if the heart is not involved. If a partner gives up fighting for love, it’s a dead end street. It always takes two to Tango in a spiritual lover’s dance where self-love is the most prevalent ingredient in intimate relating.
Someone with low self-esteem will often easily walk away from a relating experience when the the murky waters arrive in the journey to explore deeper layers of themselves. The fear takes over and plays its broken record again and again. Some may never know what love is beyond a short-term infatuation.
De Zwaag said, “Someone who does not want to be in their power (commitment to themselves) will never be able to commit to you. On the road of your past relationships and affairs, you learned who you are, what you need to shine, bloom, blossom and stay strong in a world, that has so many challenges.”
Relationships should ultimately feed, not deplete. A soulmate has an added layer to feeding. It’s magical.
There is an abundance of synchronistic moments with a soulmate. It’s the union of the divine masculine and feminine in full grace. It’s not a typical relationship and people notice there is something unique, almost unspeakable, about the union. It’s the sacred language God gave to Adam in the Garden of Eden – Leshon Hakodesh.
Kabalah Yoga Founder Audi Gozlan said, “Leshon Hakodesh” became known as “Ivri” or “Hebrew”, which originally derives from Ever, the name of Abraham’s ancestor and teacher. Abraham was also known in Mesoptamia, as Abraham the Ivri, since in Hebrew, the word Ivri also means the outcast. Like many great leaders and sages, Abraham was considered a rebel in his time.”
The language of love was to be gifted from God for Ever through Adam and Eve. Get it? Bonding forever takes a lot of connections, mainly through the heart strings where faith in each other and the Creator can flourish and grow.
I like to call it triple covalent bonding. I had an epiphany today in yoga class chatting with one of my students Jennifer Carson-Gonzalez, a sweet and lovely biochemistry major at Rice University. The triple covalent bond holds those amazing little electrons so close and tightly, never letting go; and love to dance by pairing 2 pi bonds, a few sp hybridized and np orbitals and a more stable carbon ion. Beautifully connected, strong and purposeful, I even like the sound of the word covalence. Make that a triple!
Love is not a victory march. True love is rebellious and unruly. It breaks the mold of morality – a contract of right and wrong – and exists to please no one but the soul. It’s a union beyond humanity’s typical comprehension of love. There is deep admiration, gratitude, honor and energy between the two souls that lift and soar the sacred dance into a unexplored realm full of potential and intuitiveness.
Unless you’ve ever had a relationship like this, it’s difficult to comprehend and envision. The sacred contract between two such individuals is almost a fairytale and one that many have given up hope to ever find. Interestingly enough, I’ve met people who actually do find it yet walk away from it because of their limited beliefs, mostly about themselves. Lack of self-worth is a great saboteur in relating, whether it’s in friendships or intimate relationships.
I say it’s better to be alone than to feel alone with someone in a relationship. If we can fall in love with ourselves, I dare to say the fairytale can happen and love magic will foster…for…Ever. Find your triple covalent bond and don’t settle for less!
Jennifer Buergermeister 